I had the opportunity today to attend the Why Networking Matters event at The University of Maine today, and thought that I would share some of the key points with you. Here they are!
Abe Furth is a local business owner in my area, and he gave 10 Principles for Networking:
1.) Say yes to engagement opportunities. You never know what networking event will be instrumental to something in your future, so you should take advantage of every opportunity that arises.
2.) Foster friendships from every generation. If you're young, don't feel like you can't interact with the older generation. They have a lot of wisdom to offer, and you can benefit from great friendships with them. For the older generation, younger friends can be great, too! You may even be able to learn something from them.
3.) Be approachable. A lot of times, your facial expressions and the attitudes that you're giving off say MUCH more than what you're actually saying, so be approachable and conscious of how you appear.
4.) Nurture hobbies that you're passionate about.
5.) Be an expert at a few things in life. Abe said that this point is a bit more difficult to achieve, but that it's a great idea to aim toward becoming an expert in an area.
6.) Read social cues! Does someone look like they want the conversation to be over? Are you talking too much? As point (3) stated, social cues say a lot.
7.) Image management. Also related to point (3), your image is important. How do you come across on social media? Would a professional looking at your social pages respect what you have listed as public information? Would a potential employer hire you after seeing what you put on social media?
8.) Excel at your current occupation. What are you doing now? Are you taking it seriously? Even if you don't see yourself staying with your current employer or occupation, give it your all while you're there.
10.) Be okay with standing out, and get comfortable with getting uncomfortable. (I love this point!)
The next person who spoke was Emily Cain, who is a politician and served in the Maine Senate. I had the opportunity to meet her and speak with her for a few minutes, and really enjoyed doing so. Here are some of the main points that she made on professionalism and networking:
1.) "You have to be comfortable in your own space if you want someone to connect with you." This connected with what Abe Furth said about being comfortable and approachable. Emily pointed out that in a professional setting, it's important to be comfortable, dress like yourself, and trust your gut.
2.) Make genuine connections with people. Don't be fake. When you connect with someone, connect with them as a person, don't just connect with them to make another contact.
-Find ways to connect with people for who they are.
-Frame of mind matters. Be positive!
-Focus on the benefits of an event. Like Abe said, take advantage of engagement opportunities.
-Have a good handshake! This is so relative. I repeat, HAVE A GOOD HANDSHAKE.
3.) Talk to strangers at events. Don't just stand next to a wall by yourself. Introduce yourself. Emily said to risk rejection...it's not always better to be safe than sorry. You'll regret it more if you don't take action in introducing yourself, than if you risk the possibility of being rejected. Emily even quoted Taylor Swift... "Shake rejection off!"
4.) Use your OAR. Observation, Ask a question, Reveal something about yourself when meeting someone new. These three tips will help you make a genuine connection.
5.) Listen more than you talk. This is extremely important, not just in a professional setting, but in every-day life. People who listen are more approachable and more likable.
-Nod, smile, ask questions
-Be open and receptive
-Make eye contact
-Bring the conversation full circle (remember what the person you're talking to says)
The event was great, and I'm glad that I attended. I'm feeling proud to be a Mainer! I hope that you guys learned something from these points. Until next time, connect with me on Twitter HERE.
Here are a few photos from the event:
I had the opportunity today to attend the Why Networking Matters event at The University of Maine today, and thought that I would share some of the key points with you. Here they are!
I was at Starbucks yesterday having coffee with my good friend Jessie Mae Hodsdon (Check out Jessie Mae's blog HERE), and we got on the topic of how writers think differently than most other people. I'm not sure if a "writer's eye" is a learned thing, or if it's ingrained in each and every writer, but the "writer's eye" is a different way of seeing the rest of the world. To give you an example, often people will ask writers how they come up with their ideas. To a writer, it's a no-brainer. You don't just "come up with" ideas. The ideas come to you. This may sound crazy to those of you who haven't experienced it, but to those of you that have, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Most writers don't sit at a magical desk, or drink a magical coffee, and say: "OK, I have to think of an idea now," and sit for hours imagining a best-selling novel out of thin air. I'm sure there are exceptions, and I'm not making anything less of the writers who do work this way, but the majority of writers don't purposely think of an idea for a new novel. Instead, the idea usually comes to them without them expecting it. The idea is inspired by the mundane activities in life, like buying a coffee or seeing a popup banner on a website . It's the typical that creates the incredible.
Every story idea that I've ever had (Unless entering a contest with a prompt, or any kind of contest for that mater, because most contests are meant to have you think about, and come up with a story rather than it happening upon you) has been the result of something typical not looking as typical, or when I thought of a twist on a regular phrase. So how do you see the world with a "writer's eye"? Don't look at the world as what it seems. Instead of looking into a crowd and seeing a hundred random faces, pick out the faces, and then imagine that person's story. I find myself doing this unconsciously, because it's part of who I am, and part of being a writer (It's also a really good way to get distracted in class...oops). Instead of looking outside and hating the weather, think about what the weather means to other people. Think of the stories that have happened under a stormy sky, or the happiness that's occurred under a hot sun.
This is basically me suggesting that you get out of your comfort zone, and get out of yourself. Instead of seeing the world at face value, think more about it. Let yourself wonder what if? If you do this enough, then I can pretty much guarantee you--as long as it's something that you honestly focus on--that not only will you have a new appreciation for the world, but it will have much more meaning than just day in and day out. After all, isn't that something that we all want? The deeper meaning in our days?
Until next time, tweet with me on Twitter: @Elysia_Regina , and join me on Instagram! @Elysiawalton
I just finished reading Lord of the Flies for the first time (I know, was I hiding under a rock for my life up to this point?!), and I was blown away. I read the book only because I felt I had to--it's one of those classic books that, when someone asks if you've read it, you feel as though you should say yes. So I read it. After the last page, I was left with a new appreciation for the book. William Golding, the author, wrote the novel because, in his words: "Wouldn't it be a good idea to write a story about some boys on an island, showing how they would really behave, being boys, and not little saints as they usually are in children's books?" and so Lord of the Flies was born. Now I was never a young boy, so I'm not versed nor familiar with how young boys are, but I can imagine the similarities in Lord of the Flies and the schoolyard of a middle school. I don't mean that 21st century boys would be cutting heads off of pigs and killing their friends, but Lord of the Flies articulates the primal instincts of adolescents. What will they do when left to their own devices without the luxury, or comfort of adult supervision? A lot of possibly awful things, is the answer in Lord of the Flies.
My favorite part of the book were the vastly different characters whom Golding wrote, so I'll talk most about them. First is Piggy--undoubtedly my favorite--who speaks with reason, though no one wants to listen to him. Perhaps if the other boys would pay attention to the intelligent, but meek boy, they could be rescued. Then there's Ralph, who if you ask me is the true Chief of the boys, and could probably lead them if he didn't care so much about being leader. He tries too hard to be the "big guy", and ends up looking insecure and unreliable. I won't mention Simon, only because I don't want to spoil the plot, but I'll say that Simon is the one who really gets the ball rolling, so to speak. Simon is the chip in the script--the first to succumb to the island and the terrors of being alone, and being lost. Jack is the embodiment of the terror. Unlike Ralph, he has no problem with leading, however his "style" of leading scares the boys. His style of leading turns boys into savages, and this stands to speak for how each and every one of us can become Jack. Everything depends on how you decide to deal with the circumstances. Do you take advantage of others frail states, or do you round together and work it out? Unfortunately none of the boys solidly chose the later, but I'll let you delve into the novel yourself and see how it plays out.
Lord of the Flies shows the inner evil in the human being, and the differences in how everyone deals with that evil. The incredible thing to me, is that Golding showed this, beautifully and interestingly, in a little less than 60,000 words. For those of you that don't think in word count, that's less than 300 pages, which is a very small novel. How did Golding do this so flawlessly? He wrote the truth. He wrote the story at the length of what it needed to be, to tell the story that had to be told. I won't spoil the ending, I'll only tell you that when awful, truly real things happen on a secluded island, as soon as a possible rescue is shown, all of those awful things may slip into the past, and you'll find yourself asking: did that really happen?
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Introducing edition THREE of my book ledger. Here are (most of) the books I read in 2012. Comment with which ones you've read!
1. The Lovely Bones by Alice Sebold
2. The Last song by Nicholas Sparks
3. Pathfinder by Orson Scott Card
4. Romeo & Juliet by William Shakespeare
5. When Lighting Strikes by Meg Cabot
6. Code Name Cassandra by Meg Cabot
7. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee (On a side note, who's excited about Harper Lee's new novel?!)
8. Wildfire Loose by Joyce Butler
9. The Host by Stephenie Meyer
10. Macbeth by William Shakespeare
11. Julius Caesar by William Shakespeare
12. Fight Like a Girl by Lisa Bevere
13. Ophelia by Lisa Klein
14. Pefecty You by Elizabeth Scott
15. The Short Second Life of Bree Tanner by Stephenie Meyer
16. Safe House by Meg Cabot
17. Sanctuary by Meg Cabot
18. The Scoprio Races by Maggie Stiefvater (This is still one of my favorites, and I'm pretty certain that Maggie Stiefvater is one of the coolest authors ever to walk the planet.)
19. The Rescue by Nicholas Sparks
20. Shutter Island by Dennis Lehane
21. On Writing by Stephen King (Most of you know that I'm a HUGE fan of Stephen King, not only because he's an incredible author, but also because I live in the same area as he does, which is pretty neat. On Writing is one of my all time favorite books, and I've read it numerous times. I try to read it at least once a year, and reference it pretty often here on my blog)
22. Gulliver's Travels by Jonathan Swift (I'll be honest and say that I put a :-( next to this one.)
23. This Lullaby by Sarah Dessen
24. Along for the Ride by Sarah Dessen
25. Lock and Key by Sarah Dessen
26. The Maze Runner by James Dashner (LOVE this series, and I can't wait for The Scorch Trials to hit the theaters.)
27. The Notebook by Nicholas Sparks
28. Crazy Love by Francis Chan
29. The Forest of Hands and Teeth by Carrie Ryan
Notice any author trends from 2012? I'd love to chat with you on Twitter about the books you've read. Here's a link so we can tweet together: @Elysia_Regina
Also, if you feel like visiting my Instagram where I post pics of the new books I buy, Mainer selfies and photos of my random meals, go here: @Elysiawalton
Until next time, keep smiling, writing, marketing and hustlin'.
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I love social media. When used correctly, social media can help businesses multiply their impact and create the brand image that they desire. Social media used correctly is the difference between a retail store with a professional sign, and a retail store with a 8x10 piece of paper taped to their window.
Sorry it's been so long since the last post...life has been crazy since starting college. My professors are great, and I love my classes. I'm learning a lot and looking forward to what's to come. If some of you don't know, I decided to attend school in my home state (AKA, Maine), and I'm glad I made that decision. Besides the unfortunate cold weather, it's nice to be close to home.
As far as my novel goes, I've been editing since finishing the second draft. I finished my "by-line" edit at 1:30 in the morning. Basically what by-line means, is that I implemented all of the grammatical edits that my beta readers pointed out, and made a list of all the plot points and additions that I need to make. Four pages of plot additions/changes stand between me and a finished third draft. After that draft, I'll do another read through, implement any changes I see that need to be made, and give it to a few final beta readers. Then I'll implement those changes and do a final read through. After that? Submission to literary agents! This is my sixth novel and the first one that I'm publishing (fingers crossed). It's a long journey, but I know it'll be worth it. I look forward to what the future has to hold, and won't stop believing (don't stop...believin') in my writing.
Until next time,
Chat with me on Twitter.... @Elysia_Regina_
I've never done this before, so I thought that today would be a great day to talk about a few blogs that I love. There are so many out there, hundreds with incredible information and tips, but I'll share with you a few of my favorites.
Blog.Nathanbransford.com If you're a writer, then Nathan Bransford's blog is pretty much indispensable. He talks about everything from "How to Write a Novel," to publishing advice, to literary agents. He's consistently writing and adding new useful tips. Check out Nathan on Twitter, too: @NathanBransford
Veronicarothbooks.blogspot.com If you read the Young Adult genre at all, or listen to pop culture news, you've heard of Veronica Roth. She's the author of the super-popular Divergent series, and is now on Forbe's "Top-Earning Authors" list. This blog address is actually not active now--she moved her website to Tumblr some time ago--but all of her old posts are still live, at least for now. I love this blog so much, because it was created before she was the famous "Veronica Roth." She wrote about her publishing journey, tips on getting a literary agent, and how publishing actually works. It's an inspiring blog, and makes you feel as though she's a regular person...like you can do what she does. She also writes in a humorous style, which I love. Enjoy this blog while it's up, because she said that she'll eventually take it down! You can check Veronica out on Twitter, too: @VeronicaRoth
Thecreativepenn.com Another writing blog, Thecreativepenn.com is one of my all time favorites. This blog is written by New York Times bestselling author, Joanna Penn. I'm pretty sure this blog was one of Writer's Digest's "Top Blogs For Writers," too. I'm 99% sure that it made the list. There's a plethora of great writing and reader advice on here, and I highly suggest you check this blog out. Follow Joanna on Twitter: @thecreativepenn
YAhighway.com This is a great blog, and I think it's extra awesome, because more than one author writes on it. It's a group of contributing writers that write everything from advice, to book reviews. One of my bucket-list dreams is becoming a contributing writer for YA Highway! They're on Twitter, too: @YAHighway
Those are my top four! I could go on and on, but these blogs will take some time for you to check out. What blogs do you love?
On another note, I start college tomorrow! I'll only be attending part-time, but I'm really looking forward to it. I was considering majoring in Creative Writing, but changed my direction and am now majoring in marketing, with a possible minor in Creative Writing.
Until next time, connect with me on Twitter. I love hearing from you! @Elysia_Regina
I've been blogging since March 2012, which means that you've been putting up with my electronically posted thoughts for almost three years now. For some reason it seems like it's been longer, probably because I've started four blogs in that span of time. My first blog is still live, and you can read my old posts if you want to. Here's a hyperlink to it: JustaTeenWriting. I also started WriteOvertheEdge, which I co-wrote with my author-friends Jessie Mae Hodsdon and Christina Adams. I still miss writing on this blog, and hope to write on it again someday. I also started a political blog called A Cranberry Nation, but I never continued with it. I don't think I ever posted on it, so I won't add a link to it here. I probably started it because I was feeling angry at a politician, or something. Heh, oops. Last but not least is this blog, Elysiablogs.com. I started it because I wanted a fresh look and a new name. If I kept with the teen-thing, JustaTeenWriting would have only lasted for another year and a half, anyway.
To get back to how to start a blog... the first step is to choose a platform. I used Blogspot religiously for the first two and a half years that I blogged, and only switched because I wanted more customization. I now write on a website platform that allows you to have your site set up as a blog. It looks more professional (at least I think it does) than my original blog, and I like the way it flows. You can also add categories, which is something that Blogspot didn't offer. Another option for a platform that is pretty popular, is Wordpress. The only thing I dislike about Wordpress, is the fact that you have to pay for customization and templates. It makes sense, because people should most definitely be paid for their work, but I feel like you can do more with Blogspot for free. Another site that I love is Medium. It's a little different from the other sites that I've listed, because it's more of an open platform. It's a beautiful site, though, and your posts will look professional using it. The only reason I didn't go with it, is because I didn't like the fact that you couldn't have a domain. I wanted to use Elysiablogs.com, and Medium didn't offer that. If you don't care about this as much as I do, though, Medium is a wonderful choice. Another cool thing about Medium, is that it suggests other blogs. This is great for connecting with other writers, and for your work to get discovered more quickly. I'm sure that there are hundreds of other options, but these are my suggestions. Blogspot for its simplicity, Wordpress for a professional, but potentially generic look (unless you want to pay), Medium for its beauty and a co-writing atmosphere, and website platforms for the least expensive way of customization. (I pay a monthly fee).
OK, so you've set your blog up. Now what? Add a domain. Though not necessary for blogging success--there are tons of successful bloggers with a (dot)-something address--a web domain gives your site a more professional, and a cleaner look. It's also easier to tell people where to go to see your work.
Next step: what are you writing about? My older sister also has a blog, ChaiandOrchids.com, but she writes about totally different things than I write about. Her blog is more of a lifestyle blog. My blog is more informative. What will you blog about? Don't just pick something to appease others. Do you like baseball cards? Write about baseball cards. Passionate about pancakes? Write about pancakes! The most important thing, is to write about something that you have lots of content for. Write about what you're passionate about. I happen to be passionate about writing, which is why I write about writing. I may write about my life sometimes, or my clothing line InspireThreadCompany, but most of my posts have to do with writing. Find what you love, and write about that.
What about that blank page? One of the hardest parts of getting started, is getting started. Surprised, right? Don't sweat it. Your first post is important, but the more important thing is actually starting. Whether you talk about how to make the perfect blueberry pancake, or what baseball cards are your favorite, you just have to start with something. Then what? Blog consistently. I've gone for a while before without blogging, but I try to blog at least once a week. Try to keep it consistent, because readers like that. They like knowing that you'll always have fresh content. Don't give up, keep writing, and find what you're passionate about.
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Hello! My name is Elysia. I've written since I was six years old, and I wrote my first novel when I was twelve. I'm from Maine, and now live in Charleston, South Carolina. As far as random happy things, I've ridden a Clydesdale on the beach in California, zip-lined and swum in caves in Mexico with bats and stalactites, and spoken to an audience of 1,500. I own an old typewriter and one of Pete Wentz from FOB's guitar picks. I love to travel, and have visited nearly every US state, Canada, Bermuda, Puerto Rico, St. Maarten, the US and the British Virgin Islands, Mexico, Jamaica, the Cayman Islands, Curaçao, Bonaire, Aruba, Switzerland, and Barcelona. I also dream of one day watching the ball drop in New York City. I love to type (I know, I'm a weirdo), and can type approximately 140 WPM, nowhere close to Barbara Blackburn's 212 WPM record, ugh, the overachiever.